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We all want our teenagers to be safe and sometimes the argument is made that we know our teenagers are going to do something. So we might as well equip them with the best information as possible and allow them to do whatever the behavior is in a controlled environment. As a parent the topic of teenage sex and whether or not you should allow it is a difficult subject. First and foremost all teenagers should know about sex the risks and have a good basic sexual education but when it comes to allowing teenage sex that is where parent should draw the line.

Informing your teenager about sex is one thing but allowing it is an entirely different subject altogether. You must take a step back and think about how the teenage brain works. In a teenager’s mind life is a balancing act but they have not developed the cognitive reasoning skills and hard-core judgment of right and wrong that adults have. Therefore, they are constantly weighing their decisions before they make looking at both the negative and positive sides of the activity they are about to do.

When it comes to sex there aren’t a whole lot of environmental forces telling them not to do it. Sure they get the scared straight speeches in school but connecting the risk of an STD or unwanted pregnancy to the reward of sex is a lot more difficult than the negative effects of drugs or alcohol. In a teenager’s mind, it’s pretty difficult to find any reason whatsoever not to have sex. Think of yourself as that angel that pops up on their shoulder when they are going through this rationalization process you want them to visualize you being disappointed in them if you knew they were about to have sex.

Again I’m not saying don’t educate your children about sex. And I’m not saying don’t educate your teenager about safe sex. But when it comes to teenage sex and the question of whether or not you will allow it as a parent you need to at least be firm and draw the line even if you know they will go against your rules. If there are no rules for them to break their sexual behavior can get out of control quickly for both you and them. Their partners, can be altered permanently because of this. So educate your teenagers but be firm and draw the line, remember you are their parent first and foremost and you need to be a role model.

Teenage sexual activity, in America is an issue of widespread national concern. Ironically, one question that rings in the mind of a teenager is when to have sex. Our Catholic teachings, does teach that sexual intercourse outside of marriage is contrary to its purpose. Apart from the church, now public schools are also preaching the advantages of abstinence. Even then, premarital sex is growing and becoming an important issue. Sexually transmitted diseases, teen pregnancy, and emotions of regret are usually caused by having premarital sex.

STD’s or Sexually transmitted diseases which are caused by premarital sex flourish in a society, where teens have multiple sex partners. The misuse of contraceptives may be one of the reasons for the plague of STD’s. Many teenagers have a wrong assumption that using contraceptives prevents the spread of herpes, AIDS, or other diseases, but in reality, it does not. Even the instructions or directions on the products do not state that they do stop the spread of these diseases. Each year 3 million new cases of STD’s are reported among teens. Many teenagers believe that nothing is wrong having premarital sex with multiple partners through the ages of 15 and 19, thereby increasing the chance of spreading sexually transmitted diseases each and every time. A new study among teenagers shows that every eleven seconds a teen has sex for their first time and that figure is indeed alarming.

Premarital sex has also been one of the major causes of teenage pregnancy and in turn carelessness has played a significant role in it, whether it is in the usage of contraceptives or in choosing a partner. Teens, even though they use different forms of contraceptives or birth control, they tend to use it incorrectly, because of their carelessness. Many of such unplanned teenage pregnancies happen because of the lack of knowledge and carelessness. It’s shocking to know that 30% of all such unplanned pregnancies in America involve teen parents. Hence, premarital sex makes teenage pregnancy a growing concern for all, especially parents.

As discussed, sexual relations among teenagers are indeed a growing problem, not only for them, but also for this great nation as a whole. We can thus summarize and conclude that premarital sex alone is the cause of teenage pregnancy, STD’s and feelings of regret. These could have of course avoided if they have prolonged those few minutes of bliss till marriage. In reality, the only way to not be affected is to sexual abstinence and to a larger extent through character education. Even then, many teenagers often claim that abstinence is ridiculous and impossible but they should understand that or someone should make them believe that it takes only one word, “NO” to achieve.

Teens face difficult choices daily that can affect them for the rest of their lives. One of the major decisions they will make is whether or not to be sexually active. In a culture where premarital sex is accepted and normalized and where most media messages present everything counter to abstinence, many adolescents are choosing to be sexually active, some at very young ages. In the United States, 45.6 percent of high school students (1) and 79.5 percent of college students ages 18-24 (2) have had sex. The decision to have sex at such a young age can cause life long effects on their physical, emotional and psychological health. Thus, it is critical for adults and educators to realistically address teen sexuality and to recognize the many factors, including media, culture and peer influences that contribute to this decision.

There are many influences that affect adolescents’ attitudes on sex such as sex related media. Adolescents in the US spend an average of 5-6 hours a day with some form of media that shows frequent, glamorized, and consequence-free sexual activity. (3) Recent studies also show that 12-14 year olds exposed to the most sexual content in movies, music, magazines, and on television were 2.2 times as likely to have sexual intercourse than peers that experienced less sexual content in media exposure. (4) When asked why they had sex for the first time, 13 percent of men ages 13-18 state it was because of pressure from their friends and eight percent of women this age state it was because of pressure from a partner. (5)

Teens are vulnerable to these influences and a host of others. They need to be educated on what is influencing them, the inaccuracies of certain messages (such as: “sex is just fun,” “sex has no consequences,” and “sex makes you popular”), and how a decision like this can have negative and lasting consequences to their lives, now and in the future. With this knowledge comes the ability to challenge the “norm” and make more positive and healthy decisions. This message needs to come from those they respect and trust, namely educators and parents.

The content of these educational messages needs to be one that will influence them and leave a lasting impression, especially as they face situations where a decision is needed; abstinence needs to become a solid option. In order to have influence, the message needs to be delivered in a way that they will, #1 listen to and #2 remember.

I believe one of the most effective ways is by engaging teenagers with a program that is entertaining to them, one that will get and keep their attention, one that has enough of an emotional connection to cause them to really think about what situations they will face and to prepare them to respond to these situations. One that assists them in making positive decisions in future situations and that teaches them to implement actions that will prevent them from potential negative consequences and future pain. “What’s Love Got to Do With It” is one tool that can aid in the teaching process. It was developed based on the above concepts and is specifically developed to educate and influence in the ways described above. It is engaging, entertaining, and impacting. This interactive video (DVD) program explores the various influences on teen sexual behavior, primarily media and peer influences. It educates youth on the consequences of choosing to be sexually active—not just potential physical consequences (pregnancy & STD’s)—but also the emotional and psychological impact. This program encourages adolescents to think seriously about choosing to be sexually active and why the best decision, with the least risks and consequences, is abstinence. It provides valuable information on how to handle pressure and how to say “no.”” Additionally, teens will learn what defines sexual assault and how to prevent becoming a victim or a perpetrator. A study guide is included to assist in discussion following the DVD to further drive home the message.

Girls who are sexually active and in the age group of 15 to 19 usually have partners of the same age or about 3 years older than them. Girls whose partners were older than them by at least 4 years or more consisted of about 25%. While those who became teenage mothers usually had partners who were at least 6 years older than them.
Teenagers who had partners who were considerably older than them were usually consistently active sexually and
did not use any kind of contraception. These girls were more likely to get caught with an unplanned pregnancy.

Teenagers who abstained from sex
94% of adolescents who abstained from sex claimed that they did so because they did not want an unwanted
pregnancy and preferred to wait instead of going through this trauma. However, overall the rate of teenagers
falling pregnant has dropped drastically over the last decade.

Relationships that pressurize to have sex
Statistics on teenage pregnancies show that 33% of teenagers who indulge in sex are usually in relationships
which get to be sexually active too fast and that most of the time they are pressurized into giving in to sex.
More than half the teenagers who are sexually active also indulge in drugs and most of them claim that they get into these activities more so because they are under the influence of drugs. be it alcohol or drugs, there are
still many teenagers who do not think about safe sex and end up in unwanted pregnancies. Most of these age
group do not ever think of using contraceptives and there is a 90% chance of their ending up pregnant.

Teenagers need more information on sexual health
Over half the teenagers who are indulging in sex say that they would like to have a lot more information on
sexual health from health care providers instead of remaining ignorant on this topic. Only a handful of
teenagers has approached health care providers to give them advice and tell them about the precautions that
they should use in order to stay healthy and trouble free. Because of this lack of knowledge many of them not
just have one unwanted pregnancy but get into another one barely a few years down the line. However, statistics now show that the number of teenage pregnancies have gone down and that this is why even the number living
below the poverty line and of single parents has decreased. Adolescents and teenagers want to be aware of the
dangers that they can face and the trouble that they could put themselves into and are looking for guidance
from counselors and health care providers.

Teenage pregnancy, a term used to refer to pregnancy in case of teenagers, is also called adolescent pregnancy. Various statistical studies reveal the fact that around 34 percent of girls become pregnant in their teens. In some cultures around the world, it is perfectly alright for a teenager to get married and bear children. In many countries, however, teenage pregnancy is a social issue that causes great concern.

A pregnant teenager’s life changes drastically. The teenaged mothers find it extremely difficult to handle a condition for which they are neither emotionally nor financially prepared. Several programs have been developed throughout the world to help teenagers cope with this problem.

The people who prepare these programs have a variety of opinions regarding their structure and points of focus. A debate exists over whether only programs advocating abstinence from sex or those providing sex education, such as the proper use of contraceptives, should be popularised to prevent cases of teenage pregnancy.

Those who argue in favor of abstinence from sex claim that giving sex education to teenagers encourages them to lead a sexually active life. But no raise in sexual activity among teenagers who have received sex education has been recorded. Those who argue in favor of providing sex education to teenagers claim that programs advocating abstinence from sex cause teenagers to feel uncomfortable about their sexuality. They might, then, avoid discussing their sexual problems with adults.

The reasons for teenage pregnancy may be several. Social scientists are of the opinion that teenage pregnancy is due to lack of sex education. Many teenaged girls do not know anything about birth control methods. Worse still, some of them believe that certain methods such as douching with Coke or Pepsi after having sex will prevent them from getting pregnant. These are, however, just myths.

Many girls are not aware of the availability of birth control methods. For example, Depo-Provera, when injected into a woman’s arms or buttocks once in three months, prevents ovulation and thereby changes the nature of the cervical mucus and prevents implantation. Norplant is a technique which includes the implantation of six tiny rubber rods under the skin. It remains effective for a period of five years. In addition, there are several other birth control methods such as condoms, emergency contraceptive pills, birth control pills, and contraceptive jelly. If a girl swallows an emergency contraceptive pill within three days of having sex, she can prevent pregnancy.

A girl who has accidentally gotten pregnant should know that she is not in a helpless condition. Even if she is too embarrassed to discuss the issue with her parents, she can seek the help of professionals like doctors or clinics such as Planned Parenthood that counsel such girls.

If a girl finds herself pregnant, she can decide to give birth to the baby and take care of it or give it for adoption or place it in the care of foster parents. Alternatively, she can also go in for an abortion.

There are people who think that we should only have sex after marriage. Of course there are some people who think that there is nothing wrong to have sex before marriage. In fact, one of the questions teenagers may have in their mind is whether they should have sex in this age.

In fact, the above question is debatable. I am not going to discuss about this issue in this article. Instead, I will talk about what you should consider when you have your first sex.

You need to consider the risk of STD infection at the first place. STDs stand for sexually transmitted diseases and from this name you will know that it mainly refers to diseases which can be transmitted through sexual intercourse. This is the most important issue you need to consider carefully when you have sex.

You need to take measures to protect yourself from STD infection. Since it is assumed that you will have your first sex experience, I will not say that the best method to avoid infection is to avoid having sex. Instead, you should always use a condom when you have sex.

It is also very important that you need to know how to use the condom correctly. As a matter of fact, a lot of people will know that it is very important to use a condom. However, some of them may not really use them correctly. Since it is the first time, you should read the instructions carefully. It is very true that in most cases the condom fails to protect us because we do not use it correctly.

Besides, using a condom can also help to prevent pregnancy. It is also very important to do so. You may not be able to raise a child if you are still a teenager. Raising a child can be a financial and psychological burden to a teenager.

Besides, it is very common for girls to feel painful when they have the first sex. Of course this can be due to various reasons. Yet, you should try to be relaxed when you are having sex. If you feel that it does not lubricate itself enough, you may need to have more foreplay. Using some water based lubricants is also one of the ways to ease this problem.

Sex is meant to be enjoyable. The baseline is that you should know what you are doing and you should also try to protect yourself. If you can do so, there is no point that you cannot have sex when you are still a teenager.